You’ve tried so much already. Maybe you planned a big trip, hoping a new place would help you reconnect. Maybe you wrote a long, heartfelt apology and promised it would never happen again. Perhaps you booked a weekend retreat, sat through months of couples therapy, or spent thousands of dollars hoping that something, anything, would […]

Finding out about your husband’s affair was devastating. Learning that he had the affair with another man added a whole new layer of pain. You are asking questions you never expected to be asking. Is he gay? Has he always been? Was any of our marriage real? How could I have missed this? not knowing […]

After a same-sex affair in a straight marriage, this question often surfaces quickly. First, you are trying to make sense of what happened. Then you start wondering whether your partner’s attraction to more than one gender means they can ever truly be faithful to you. Certainly, the fear is real, and the confusion is real. […]

The same sex affair question you are asking is one of the hardest to sit with. You have already been hit by the shock of the affair. Now, layered on top of that, is a question about your partner’s sexuality that you never expected to be asking. Are they gay? Bisexual? Still attracted to you […]

The moment you found out about the affair, your whole world shifted. Then came the second wave. Learning that the affair was with someone of the same sex raised questions you never expected to be asking. Is my partner gay? Bisexual? Did they always know this about themselves? Was our whole marriage built on something […]