Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome: Signs You Might Be Suffering and How to Get Help

Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome: Signs You Might Be Suffering and How to Get Help

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If you are living in the aftermath of infidelity, you are likely living with the resulting infidelity trauma. For many hurt partners, the response to that infidelity trauma has a name: Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome or PTIS. It’s a type of post-traumatic stress disorder that can occur when someone you love betrays your trust. As a result, PTIS can make reconciliation after an affair extremely difficult. Furthermore, it can strain your other relationships and even disrupt your work life, ultimately reducing the overall quality of your life significantly.

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Experiencing your partner’s betrayal this way is a hard hit to your sense of safety, faith in others, and even how you see yourself. Moreover, PTIS isn’t just a bump in the relationship road. Instead, it is internally jarring, chaotic, and confusing. The consistency and comfort of a relationship you recognize has been replaced with a serious roadblock that can disrupt your life, well-being, and worldview. It is real suffering that deserves real attention.

Despite what you feel right now, try to remember that you’re not alone. Try not to be too hard on yourself or downplay what you’re going through. It is important to recognize and address the signs of PTIS. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to seek help. 

With the right support, you can heal and feel whole again.

Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome: Signs You Might Be Suffering From PTIS or Infidelity Trauma

If you aren’t sure that the emotional pain you’re experiencing in the aftermath of betrayal is PTIS, then consider the following list of common indicators. Do you recognize any of these symptoms?

Intrusive Thoughts:

Are you constantly replaying the incident of infidelity in your mind, experiencing sudden and unwanted memories or flashbacks, and/or having nightmares about your partner’s betrayal? Consequently, these thoughts can pop up at any time, making it difficult to concentrate on daily activities. Furthermore, they may interfere with your ability to move forward.

Hypervigilance:

Do you feel a persistent sense of alertness or desire to control your partner? Perhaps you continually check up on them, scour their phone or social media accounts, or grill them about their whereabouts. Looking for signs of further infidelity and potential threats is often an ongoing habit of those suffering from PTIS.

Anxiety:

Is overwhelming worry about the relationship’s stability or the fear of future betrayals constantly on your mind? If so, this could mean you might be living with physical indications of post-affair worry and tension, such as a racing heart, sweating, etc in situations that remind you of the affair.

Depression:

Are persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or numbness the norm for you now? Losing interest in enjoyable activities you once loved, withdrawing socially, and significant changes in sleep or appetite are common signs of post-affair suffering and depression.

Difficulty Trusting Others:

Is it difficult to believe in anyone’s sincerity or loyalty, regardless of whether they are related to the infidelity? In addition to questioning your partner’s actions, you may be continually doubting your friends and family too.

Emotional Numbness:

Have you gotten used to feeling detached from your emotions? Is it difficult to express your feelings? Avoiding situations or conversations that could trigger memories of the infidelity, may cause you to feel isolated and unable to reach out for support.

Anger and Irritability:

Are you experiencing frequent and intense anger? Is your irritability often disproportionate and overblown? PTIS can show up as unpredictable outbursts or arguments with your partner or loved ones, further straining your relationships.

Avoidance:

Do you deliberately steer clear of people, places, or activities that remind you of the infidelity? To avoid dealing with affair-related thoughts or emotions you may be avoiding certain locations, social gatherings, or friends that know your partner or the affair partner.

Difficulty Making Decisions:

Are you finding it hard to make even simple choices, fearing that any decision might lead to more heartbreak or negativity in your life? PTIS may be affecting your ability to trust your own judgment and fueling a deep fear of making more mistakes.

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Understanding these signs and symptoms can help you recognize the suffering you’re experiencing as Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome. That knowledge can empower you. How? You can pay attention now to how PTIS is affecting you emotionally with more awareness and intention.  From there healing is entirely possible.

Acknowledging The Emotional Toll of Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome

Feeling like the world turned upside down after your partner’s betrayal is completely understandable. The emotional rollercoaster of Post-Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome and Infidelity Trauma symptoms can leave deep emotional scars of inadequacy and distrust.

Are you wading through waves of confusion regarding your partner’s feelings and negative self-perception?

You might be asking yourself, “How did I end up here?”, “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why wasn’t I enough?” The discovery of your partner’s infidelity can make you question your perception of the relationship and your value to your partner. You may blame yourself for your partner’s infidelity and your inability to recognize their deception.

Do you find yourself obsessively comparing yourself to your significant other’s affair partner?

PTIS can cause you to scrutinize every detail about the affair partner. Measuring yourself against their attractiveness, personality traits, and professional achievements can become an unhealthy pastime and distract you from healing. Suppose you constantly feel you fall short compared to the affair partner and ruminate on those thoughts. If that is the case, the result can be mental exhaustion, further diminished self-esteem, and a deepening rift in your relationship.

Do you feel unlovable after your partner’s betrayal?

Struggles with self-worth are a significant part of PTIS. It can leave you feeling undeserving of love and wonder whether a healthy relationship is possible for you. Understandably, this casts a dark shadow over your future relationships. This pervasive doubt about one’s own value and potential as a partner cannot help but hinder your recovery. But remember, it’s okay to feel this way, and it’s important to know you’re not alone in this journey.

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How To Get Help For Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome

Dealing with Post-Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome (PTIS) or Infidelity Trauma alone can be an overwhelming and isolating experience. Seeking help from a trusted, experienced guide is a crucial step towards healing and recovery. There is a way forward. Take these steps to find the support you need:

Seek Out A Qualified Therapist

A therapist who specializes in helping betrayal sufferers is crucial now. Therefore, look for a person who specializes in affair recovery and has experience dealing with the emotional aftermath of infidelity. Additionally, you want someone who can help you process your emotions, rebuild trust, and develop healthy coping strategies. A compassionate, trained relationship expert can understand and offer tailored therapeutic strategies to navigate your emotional turmoil and the relationship dynamics you’re facing. Our practice includes such specialists, we are dedicated to helping you navigate the complexities of PTIS. 

Embrace A Supportive Circle

Consider joining a support group too. Connecting with people sharing your pain can provide a sense of community and understanding. Support groups offer a safe space to discuss experiences, gain insights, and receive encouragement. Whether you choose online forums or local meetups, connecting with people who get it can help you put things in perspective and learn from their healing journeys as well.

Don’t Overlook Self-Care for Relief

Self-help strategies also help you take control of your PTIS recovery. Journaling emotions and thoughts, practicing mindfulness and meditation, as well as engaging in physical activity can ease stress and improve your mental well-being. It’s important to intentionally set manageable personal goals and celebrate small victories too. This fosters a sense of progress and hope when your symptoms try to make you doubt yourself and your future.

Choose The Right Infidelity Recovery Program

Our Infidelity Recovery Program is specifically designed to address Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome. We see healing from PTIS as a couple’s path forward. The program offers a structured path to healing, combining our resources to help you rebuild your life after infidelity. By participating in this program, you can find a comprehensive and supportive approach to recovery, ensuring that you receive the care and guidance you need.

The program focuses on rebuilding trust through honest communication and healthy boundaries. As we work together, healing will start to happen individually and as a healthier couple. Our effective approach to PTIS recovery affords you hope, a roadmap towards strength and connection, and confidence in a renewed relationship. 

Seeking help for Post Traumatic Infidelity Syndrome is an empowered step towards restoring your emotional equilibrium. Again, you do not have to take this journey alone. Professional support and commitment to your recovery can provide the solid foundation you need to heal.  It’s okay to acknowledge your hurt. It’s okay to lean on others. And it’s okay to take care of yourself. 

THE BOTTOM LINE? YOU CAN OVERCOME POST-TRAUMATIC INFIDELITY SYNDROME IN MIAMI, FL.

At  Relationship Experts, skilled therapists are ready and able to assist you as you navigate healing from betrayal trauma. We aim to guide and support you on your journey toward improved communication, trust, and lasting connection. We are here to provide the guidance, resources, and compassion you deserve. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us today.

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Our team at Relationship Experts promotes recovery while aiding communication and intimacy. Our private practice serves in-person clients in Miami, Florida. If you are located elsewhere, we can still help! We offer many online services, allowing us to connect with you in the U.S., United Kingdom, and Canada. For more details, please check out our blog page or listen to our podcasts on Spotify.

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